You’ve probably seen these photos of Heidi Klum at her annual Halloween party. This year she went as a clone of herself, complete with five lookalike models with prosthetics on their faces. It actually took me a minute to realize that the women had something done to their faces to look like Heidi and that they weren’t just typical filled and toxxed LA ladies. Maybe that was the point, so that Heidi would always be the prettiest one. Or else why didn’t she have prosthetics too? That would have been a clever commentary on the interchangeability of models instead of Heidi looking like the standout. The other models look as much like Heidi as Katy Perry looked like Hillary Clinton.

People has more on the luxury penthouse in New York which Heidi rented to prepare for the party, apparently it’s for sale and I would bet that Heidi was comped it for the night in exchange for the publicity. They also have a new interview with Heidi. They talked to her at the amfAR inspiration gala last week. She explained how she uses her charity work with children’s hospitals to give her own children perspective. Heidi has four children, daughters Leni, 12, and Lou, 7, and sons Henry, 11, and Johan, nine.

“We talk every night,” Klum told PEOPLE Thursday at the 2016 amfAR Inspiration Gala in Los Angeles. “We have dinner every night at 6 o’clock. Today, I’m here, but normally, we do. We cook every night. We sit around the table every night, or for breakfast, [and] for me, that old-fashioned, sitting around and talking about your day I think is very important.”

It’s not as simple as communicating what she has done with her day that makes these conversations so important, though. It’s also the quiet message of how, busy schedule aside, she can leave the world a better place each day…

“They know what I do. So [they ask], ‘Where were you? What did you do?’ ” she says. “And I tell them. It’s the same when I go to the Children’s Hospital. I tell them what I saw there.”

“They are very heartfelt, [but] of course, they don’t know what it’s like,” the America’s Got Talent judge points out. “When they’re whining about something, I tell them, like, ‘This is not something to be crying about.’ ”

“I tell them about the children that I see at the hospital that cannot go home. ‘It’s Christmas and you’re at home. And you have all these presents. And they’re in the hospital and they can’t go anywhere.’ I talk to them about it.”

[From People]

That sounds like a decent response if a child is complaining about something minor or begging, but of course it’s all about context. Telling them they should suck up the pain from a scraped knee because there are kids in the hospital would be rather heartless, but that’s not what Heidi is saying. Kids are selfish, it’s just a developmental phase they’re going through and while we should remind them to be empathic and give back they’re not always capable of seeing beyond their own perspective. It’s nice that she schedules a nightly dinner with everyone, so many families don’t get that time together.