Meet the sweetest treats @DylansCandyBar! Dylan Lauren introduces twins Cooper and Kingsley:

— PEOPLE Babies (@PEOPLEbabies) July 6, 2015

Dylan Lauren is Ralph Lauren’s 41 year old daughter. She’s always held out as an example of a second-generation success story – she’s never been considered a “socialite” or a barely-functional “personality.” Dylan created her own candy-store business, Dylan’s Candy Bar, and she’s opened her candy stores around the world. Is she as successful as her dad? No, but she is still very successful and work-oriented. Dylan married Paul Arrouet and they happily raised dogs for a while. But then back in April, they welcomed twins! The boy is named Cooper Blue and the daughter is Kingsley Rainbow.

At first, Dylan told People Magazine that she and Paul decided to use a surrogate to become parents because “it was the way we wanted to start a family. I think it’s a wonderful option.” While Dylan – or any woman – does not owe anyone an explanation for how, where and if they want to become a parent, it did feel like there was some stuff left unsaid about Dylan’s choice to use a surrogate. Now in a new interview with Cricket’s Circle, Dylan explains her choice. It boils down to… she was traveling too much to get pregnant?

Deciding to have children: “I was one of those people who was apprehensive about having kids. If my husband didn’t want a family, I probably would have just had a lot of rescue dogs! But then I saw Paul demonstrate, with [our dog] Jersey, that he would take on a big part of the responsibility. Seeing how he would get up really early to walk or feed her made me realize that we could do this together, and I wouldn’t have to give up my career. It also taught us how we were with discipline – he’s the alpha parent, I’m the one with the candy store! I think it’s a little bit of a role reversal – he’s definitely more of the “mom” in some ways.”

Why they chose surrogacy: “We chose to use a surrogate as the way we wanted to start our family, particularly as I was traveling across the globe on a stressful schedule to get stores open. I realized this was a wonderful option. I have many friends who had kids solo, who adopted, who used surrogates – no one was judging them – it’s a new world!

[From Cricket’s Circle]

I included the first part just to emphasize how ambivalent Dylan sounded about parenthood to begin with. It feels like her husband probably wanted kids and she was like “Okay, but I still want to work full time, travel whenever I need to and I’m not really interested in getting pregnant.” I don’t judge her for not wanting to get pregnant (I relate to that), but it does feel like they used surrogacy as a mere convenience for their work schedules, not out of necessity. Hm.

Her husband is really attractive.

Photos courtesy of WENN, People Magazine, Dylan’s Candy Bar Instagram.